How to Pick the Perfect Wedding Date
How do you choose your wedding date? Very carefully! Here are
some tips to pick the perfect day to walk down the aisle.
By Tracy Guth
PHOTO BY NBARRETT PHOTOGRAPHY
You're engaged? Congratulations! When's the wedding? This delicate
decision is different for each couple, but according to our
2015 Real Weddings Study, the average engagement is about 14
months long. With a little over a year to plan , you have time to check everything
off your list —from
finding your wedding dress (which can take 9 to 11 months)
to booking your wedding reception venue (some
are booked a year in advance). Consider the following to pick
a day that's both practical and personal.
Symbolism
How romantic would it be to marry on the date you first met,
on the day you officially became a couple or on your grandparents'
anniversary? Some cultures use traditional methods to choose
a date—Japanese families check out the koyomi , an
ancient astrological calendar, to pick the most propitious
day, while ancient Greeks use divined pig entrails. (Pork rinds,
anyone?) You may not be able to marry on the exact day you
want—the venue you love may be booked or that special date
could fall on a Monday—but you can probably get pretty close.
Tell your guests about any significance of the timing in your
ceremony programs.
Season
Weather not only affects your wedding's style and location, but
may set a completely different mood. If it's snowing outside,
or it's 90 degrees, people will behave differently. Consider
your wedding personality, then choose your season accordingly.
Free-spirited fun, tropical-inspired cocktails and sun-dappled
settings: Stick a summer wedding. Opulence, snowfall and holiday
sparkle: Try a winter wedding. Rich colors, nostalgia and mulled
apple cider: Go for a fall wedding. Freshness, pastels and
a daffodil bouquet: A spring wedding is your thing.
Price
Budget may affect your choice. June, August, September and October
are the most popular times to marry, so prices are inevitably
higher. But if, for example, you're planning a wedding in January,
March or December, it may cost less because 50 other couples
aren't lined up behind you offering to pay top dollar. Days
of the week also matter: Saturday nights carry a hefty price
tag, but marry during the week and the world is your oyster
(venues may even bid against each other to get your business).
Holiday
If you've always wanted a Nutcracker wedding, or you'd
love a heart-covered wedding cake, sounds like you're a holiday
wedding couple. If you're Irish, opt for March, when everyone
is already in the St. Patty's Day spirit. Try a wedding party
in pastels and an Easter egg hunt in March or April. Have a
Fourth of July celebration with flags, barbecue and fireworks.
A plus: Some holidays fall on long weekends, which might make
it easier for out-of-town guests to attend. On the flip side,
some guests may not want their holiday weekends upended by
a wedding, so take that into consideration as well.
VIP Preferences
Speaking of guests, but only of the top-tier, wouldn't-get-married-without-them
variety: If you have limited preferences, you may want to ask
your nearest and dearest about date conflicts and plan accordingly.
Be forewarned that this is a slippery slope if you ask anyone
outside your essential circle of parents, siblings and honor
attendants. Keep it simple and don't budge once the date's
set.
No-No Days
There are definitely wedding dates to avoid. The weekend before
tax day is not the best time to tie the knot—especially if
one of you is an accountant or tax attorney. No matter what
your career, you probably have your own crunch time at work
(inventory always happens in July, the new fiscal year begins
in September), so don't marry then. You'll either be stressed
or you won't be allowed to take off for your honeymoon. Also,
your religion may dictate some times of year, or even days
of the week, that are off-limits.